The stunning Bipasha Basu has never been in a happier space in her life. She is content, calm and very comfortable with the man in her life, actor Harman Baweja.
Speaking about him with bridled gusto Bipasha says, “For the first time I’ve met a guy who has a better heart than mine. For the first time in a relationship I’m entitled to behave the way I want to, even if my behaviour seems childish it’s okay. If I want to laugh out loud Harman joins in my laughter.”
When asked if the two are engaged to get married Bipasha in her characteristically candid way says, “No, we are not engaged. As for a life together there is this big child in me which wants to run away at the very mention of marriage. The man in my life makes me feel good about myself.”
However happiness, says Bipasha, cannot be obtained from your partner. “I don’t think the presence of that someone special in your life can change how you feel about yourself. I now realize one’s own state of mind and one’s happiness is always in one’s own hands.”
Bipasha has learnt to love herself above anyone else. “The one important lesson I’ve learnt in life is, in your list of priorities put yourself at no.1. No one else can and should take that place in your life. You know, I am not a selfish person. But I’ve learnt to respect my feelings. I am enjoying myself at the no.1 position in my life.”
Harking back to her previous relationship with John Abraham, Bipasha says, “Earlier the way I felt, my happiness depended entirely on the partner. I’ve learnt to live on my own. For the inner happiness I turn to myself. I seek only the more mundane joys with my partner like cycling, playing tennis. We do a lot of fun things together. Harman nurtures and pampers the child within me. I’ve never felt this way before.”
Bipasha Basu thinks a relationship can only work if the two partners stop trying to impose themselves on one another. “Relationships are about control. In 90 percent of the relationships across the world, the dynamics are about who’s controlling whom. I think we need to evolve in dealing with relationships. We need to love a person without taking away his or her freedom.”